You asked me what family is And I think of family as community I think of the spaces where you don't have to shrink yourself Where you don't have to pretend or to perform You can fully show up and be vulnerable And in silence, completely empty, and That's completely enough You show up, as you are, without judgment, without ridicule Without fear or violence, or policing, or containment And you can be there and you're filled all the way up So we get to choose our families We are not limited by biology We get to make ourselves And we get to make our families